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This is not a book about blame or guilt, although it may certainly spark that kind of discussion. This is not a book about getting even or setting the record straight, although it may do that as well.  And, this is not a book for clinicians, although it will offer some scientific data and educational resources. This is a book of real stories about real kids. Kids who took their own lives because they thought it was their only way out of a hopeless situation.  It is about the tragic choices they made in an effort to end the pain - when they believed there was no other solution. It is told by mothers who are willing to share their own personal pain as they watched their children suffer and struggle. It is about their own efforts to advocate for their children while they continue to deal with their own devastating loss and the aftermath of bullycide. Judy M. Kuczynski MS (Mother of a bullied child, Tina, who died in a car accident in 1998 - President of Bully Police USA) ......

- Special Report - >> Is YOUR child  being bullied? Name Email State

Dear Friend,

Our book, "Bullycide In America: Moms speak out about the bullying/suicide connection", is designed as a tool to raise awareness, inform and educate all people that bullying and its tragic consequences are a real phenomenon. 

I would ask you to look closely at the pictures of our children - you cannot help but notice that they were normal children, with normal faces.  They had normal personalities with normal feelings and emotions.  They were just kids in every way. 

You have undoubtedly heard it said, in many contexts, “if it could happen to me, it could happen to you”.  This is as true as true can be.  No one is immune.  No family is immune from losing a child by bullycide.  Bullying exists everywhere, in many forms.  And its tragic consequences are very real.

I would invite you to read a little about our children and then decide if this e-book might help you as you guide your child through the world of school turmoil and violence. 

Although this book is filled with sad stories, it is also a book about hope.  It is our desire to help others, and educate those who read our stories, so that they do not have to endure our fate - let our words, our writing, be a lesson, and a warning and may those lessons and warnings create positive changes all over the world.

~Brenda High, Jared's mom

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Like Thieves In The Night Brandon’s Story - “Bullies Who Kill” Brandon Chris Swartwood - 2/21/82 – 12/16/00 “While you are going through the system to fight for your child's rights, your child is the one going into the battlefield …and today could be the day that he or she is fatally wounded.” Brandon's mom, Cathy Swartwood Mitchell One night, as Brandon stood by me, he said, “I feel dead inside." On a cold December morning, only three weeks later, I was standing by Brandon’s dead body, knowing, that despite all my efforts to save my beloved son, the bullies' job had been done too well.

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The Aftermath
...For several years, I tried to work. I had no focus, no energy and enough anger to do a mass killing of those responsible. Thank God, I had enough maturity, morals and maintained enough sanity, barely, to refrain from seeking revenge.  I say “barely” on the sanity thing because I was crazy with grief and anger. 

...So there I sat, for the first time in my life, in jail. I had a prescription bottle of pills in my jean jacket. I was an emotional wreck. I emptied the entire bottle into my hand as I contemplated my situation.
Cathy Swartwood Mitchell

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Fighting The System Jared’s Story - "The scars never go away" Jared Benjamin High - 09/23/85 – 09/29/98 “It’s your child.  You must fight for him or her.  No one cares like a parent cares ...a parent is motivated by love.” Jared's mom, Brenda High "Brutus" commenced to brutally assault Jared by picking him up and throwing him on the floor and pushing him against the walls...Several times Jared yelled for help calling, "Teacher, Teacher!"  But no one was there to help.

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Looking back – Looking forward   (10 Steps to Stop Bullying)
Put yourself into the shoes of a victim of bullying.  Every day a child is bullied is an eternity to them.  We worry about terrorists coming into our country and doing us harm.  A victim of bullying walks into their school each day knowing their terrorist could strike any moment and destroy their wounded spirit again, and again. How long can a child play on the freeway dodging cars before the experience finally becomes too much and they go over the edge?
Brenda High

 

Girl to Girl Bullying Corinne’s Story - “Just Go Home and Kill Yourself” Corinne Wilson  - 09/30/91 – 10/06/04  “Don’t be afraid of the school, the teachers or administrators.  You must remember they work for you, and your children.  If you don’t stand up for your child, who will?” Corinne's mom, Rochelle Sides The bullying came to a head on Oct. 6, 2004.  ...one of the girls slapped her and called her a "whore." They said they wished she were dead and that she should “go home and kill herself."  The day my husband and I should have been listening to our daughter perform at the rodeo...we buried her instead.

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Relational Aggression – Girl to Girl Bullying Examined
...It started slowly with rumors, secrets and exclusion; it progressed to harassment and violence.  Like most victims of relational aggression, Corinne blamed herself for her bully’s behavior.  She internalized her pain and kept the bullying to herself in an attempt to maintain a relationship with her bullies, as many girls do.  As a result, it damaged her self-esteem and caused severe depression, which ultimately led to Corinne taking her life. 
Rochelle Sides

 

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Hazing – Another Form Of Bullying Matt’s Story - “Rite of Passage" Matthew Alexander Epling – 2/10/88 – 7/16/02 “Don't be fooled. Bullying doesn't have to be repeated, or take place  over a period of time.  Each child is different. Even one traumatic instance  can cripple a young mind into a well of despair.” Matt's mom, Tammy Epling Little did Matt know that lurking around the corner was a parked car, and three upperclassmen were waiting for them.  …The upperclassmen restrained Matt and his friend and said, "Welcome to high school”. Then they proceeded to pour syrup on them, and smash eggs on their heads. Matt fought back and stood up for himself and his friend...The main attacker told Matt, “Stop fighting.  This is how it is!”

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A Personal How-To Guide To Effecting Change
Hazing has a few different components than bullying, but at the core, they are both about “power and control”.  One person has power and control, one person does not.  Bullying, harassment, and hazing - they are all sick twisted cousins. It is sometimes hard to define when hazing is an assault and when repeated hazing became bullying. In order to make a wider base we wanted to incorporate all of the aspects of bullying, harassment and hazing together into a comprehensive anti bullying plan. 
Tammy & Kevin Epling

 

What It Feels Like April’s Story - “8 Months to Bullycide” April Himes -  4/27/86 – 2/14/00 “Bullies WILL cause depression and depression is the  number one cause of suicide.  The signs are there – be aware!” April's mom, Carol Clinton I called April out of her room and told her what I was told. She yelled, "I can't believe you called the school." She went back in her room and slammed the door.  After about ten minutes she...asked me to repeat what the vice principal had said.  I again repeated what I was told. She was crying...and yelled, "I hate you." Those are the last words I heard from her.

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The Pain of Depression - What It Feels Like
A person that takes his/her life by suicide is not thinking of themselves or anyone else. A depressed and suicidal person is not thinking - the brain is not functioning well enough to have any real thoughts. There are only feelings. It's all about emotions. You feel sad, upset, unloved, disparity, hopeless, helpless, alone, gloomy, weighted down and rejection.
Carol Clinton

 

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Recipe for a Disaster Kristina’s Story - “Nice Girls Finish Last Too” Kristina Arielle Calco - 12/26/89 – 12/4/05 “If you think something is wrong, something is probably wrong. Go with your gut feelings.” Michelle Calco For whatever reason, in the wee morning hours of Sunday December 4th, Kristina lost her focus. The stage had been set and with such a frail and sensitive soul, she just could not bear the pain that had consumed her. In that one tiny infinitesimal instant, Kristina made the choice to kill herself.

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Recipe for a Disaster: Bullying to Depression, Depression to Suicide
Take one part shy & sensitive, impressionable, naïve young girl and add a lack of self-esteem. Slowly stir in puberty.  Add typical teenage pressures including friends, grades, sports, extracurricular activities and being perpetually on Instant Chat.  Add a daily dose of teasing, ridicule and torment by a group of boys and then garnish with what turns out to be a sexually charged and romantic online relationship with a boy from another high school.  Add to this a seeming inability for intervention in any way, shape or form. Shake well and then let sit.
Michelle Calco

 

Death by Computer Jeffrey’s Story - "Sixth out of Seven, Number-One Son, Right-hand Man" Jeffrey Scott Johnston - 12/21/89 – 6/29/05 “A bully doesn’t have to be eye to eye to bully someone.  Sometimes he or she gets into cyberspace, and then there’s no place to hide from their torment.” Debbie Johnston With the keyboard as his weapon, the bully violated the sanctity of my home and murdered my child just as surely as if he had crawled through a broken window and choked the life from Jeff with his bare hands. It was not a death that was quick and merciful.  It was carried out with lies, rumors and calculated cruelty portioned out day by day.

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The New Wave: A Warning about Cyberbullying  The problem of cyberbullying is compounded by the very nature of its existence in the electronic world, where words can have a shelf life of months, years, and even decades.  The tradition of home as a refuge from bullies on the school playground is over. The Internet is a new playground, and there are no off hours. Adrianna Sgarlata, Director, Bully Police Virginia – Miss Virginia 2006

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Judging the Methods of Suicide
I didn’t want to write this chapter, but I believe it needs to be written.  There will be those who will read these stories and almost certainly pass judgment on three of the mothers in this book based on one thing, the method of suicide our children chose... “JUDGE not, that ye be not judged.  For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again..."  Matt. 7:1
Brenda High

The Influences of the Media on Bullying
Thirty murders. Forty beatings. Does this sound like figures from a police report? No, unfortunately they are the number of violent acts a group of sixth-graders observed while watching one hour of prime-time television. 

...As parents and members of a community, we constantly ask our selves, how does TV and film affect our children?  We know that TV has become increasingly more violent and graphic. How much has it increased?
Rochelle Sides

Shame and Blame–The Code of Silence
...Shame is attached to certain acts and attitudes. Among those postures is appearing to be a victim in any way. This is the same attitude that holds victims responsible in some way for being raped. When victims believe that no one can protect them from retaliation they see no reason to tell or report incidents committed against them. Victims become isolated when they believe that nothing can be done to change their situation. They become isolated, depressed, and filled with despair. 
Judy Kuczynski

Appendices
Recommended Resources
Contributions and Authors - Looking for a Speaker or Consultant? Go to the Speaker's page
The Readings – “Wanda’s Song” – lyrics
Find out how to raise money for yourself and  the Wanda Project
THE PROCLAMATION - Bullycide Awareness Day

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