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Michelle Calco’s Recommendations

The Kalamazoo County Suicide Prevention Committees Program based on the government program at http://www.osophs.dhhs.gov/ophs/BestPractice/usaf.htm

The Girl in the Mirror - Relates to teen depression, a wonderful book – (Snyderman & Streep 2002)

Forever Family Foundation - A 501c nonprofit founded to further the understanding of Afterlife Science through research and education while providing support and healing for people in grief. Weekly radio broadcast. (www.foreverfamilyfoundation.org

Life After Life by Dr. Raymond Moody - a book of compilations of Adult Near Death Experiences. 

Closer to the Lightby Dr. Melvin Morse - a book of compilations of Children's Near Death Experiences. 

Afterlife Encounters by Dianne Arcangel, M.S. - A former hospice chaplain turned researcher presents the effects afterlife encounters offer believers, nonbelievers, skeptics, and scientists via her groundbreaking, first of its kind, five-year international survey and gripping case histories. 

Saved by the Light by Dannion Brinkely - a true life experience of this authors Near Death Experience. 

On Life After Death by Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross 

Walking in the Garden of Souls by George Anderson - A medium's comforting conversations with those on the other side indicating that an afterlife exists. 

The Other Side by Bishop James Pike - First Hand account of survival by a father whose son died of suicide in 1966.
 

 
Carol Clinton’s Recommendations
Mary Finds a Friend by Robert J Skye – A wonderful teaching aid that is making a difference at the elementary school level.  The experts agree that this is the opportune time to reverse the bullying mentality before it worsens with age. The book can be found at www.maryfindsafriend.com.
Chicken Soup for the Grieving soul - Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen - Health Communications Inc.2003 
Embraced By The Light by Betty J Eadie - published in 1992 by Gold Leaf Press. "The Most Profound and Complete Near-Death Experience Ever."  This book helped me understand that April is living in a beautiful and loving place. 
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Tammy Epling’s Recommendations
http://www.alfred.edu/hs_hazing/ - The full report of the Alfred University survey
The video "Bullied to Death" can be found at www.AETV.com, (A&E) - search by title 
What will we do? Preparing a school community to cope with crises - Baywood Publishing Company, Inc. - Edited by Robert G. Stevenson 1994 
Threat Assessment in Schools: a guide to managing threatening situations and to creating safe school climates - United State Secret Service and United States Department of Education  2002 

Grief Books:

Understanding grief: Helping yourself heal - Alan D.Wolfelt Ph.D. - Accelerated Development Inc. 1992
Healing your traumatized Heart: 100 practical ideas after someone you love dies a sudden, violent death - Alan D. Wolfelt Ph.D. - Companion Press 2002 
The Bereaved Parent- Harriet Sarnoff Schiff - Penguin Books USA, 1977 
Finding your way after your child dies - Phyllis Von Wezeman, Kenneth R. Wezeman - Ave Maria Press, 2001 
Websites
www.afsp.org - Suicide Awareness/Prevention
 
Brenda High’s Recommendations
Grieving: The Pain and the Promise by Deanna Edwards - Published in 1989 by Covenant Communications.  If you have lost a loved one, this is the book to read. 
The Gateway We Call Death by Russell M. Nelsen – Deseret Book Company, SLC, UT. 1995.  This book is very small, but very powerful – the first book we were given after Jared died. 
And I Will Make Thee Whole: Helping Families With Mental Health Concerns – The Mental Health Resource Foundation – Published by Cedar Fort, Inc. www.cedarfort.com – Understanding Depression 
Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl –  Published by Simon & Schuster, Inc. – This book tells Dr. Frankl’s story as a Jewish prisoner in Auschwitz and other concentration camps during WWII, and his discovery of “logotherapy”.  For people who enjoy deep-thinking wisdom, mental health psychology, and why some people choose suicide and others don’t. 

Websites:

www.JaredStory.com – My healing project – A mixture of everything
www.bullypolice.org – Reporting on State Anti Bullying Laws
www.RyanPatrickHalligan.com - Hearts broken in Vermont
www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov - Take a Stand. Lend a Hand. Stop Bullying Now!
www.peerabuse.info - Bullying is abuse by peers
www.HeroesInTheCrowd.com - The next book I'm working on
 
Debra Johnston’s Recommendations
When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death - Laurie Krasny Brown, Marc Tolon Brown - Little Brown & Co - Early Childhood/Elementary 
A Terrible Thing Happened: A Story for Children Who Have Witnessed Violence or Trauma - Margaret M. Holmes, Cary Pillo (Illustrator) - Magination Press - Early Childhood/Elementary 
Sad Isn't Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing With Loss (Elf-Help Books for Kids) - Michaelene Mundy, R. W. Alley - Abbey Press - Early Childhood/Elementary 
I Miss You: A First Look At Death - Pat Thomas, Leslie Harker - Barron's Educational Series - Early Childhood/Elementary 

HARRY POTTER (The Entire Series) - J.K. Rowling – Scholastic - Elementary/Adult

The Harry Potter books were Jeff’s, and our favorites because they dealt with the issues of bullying, death, suicide, guilt, and grief in a way that helps both children and adults deal with these feelings in a positive way.  In the weeks after we lost Jeff, I re-read all six books aloud to my husband and four-year-old William.  When the pain became more than we could stand, one of us would reach for the book and I would start reading.  It would soothe William to sleep, and it would comfort him when he inevitably awoke screaming several times a night.  There were times that my voice would grow hoarse, and Bob would take the book and read to me.  These books were our salvation.
Number the Stars - Lois Lowry - Houghton Mifflin - Elementary/Adult (This was Jeff's favorite) 
Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies   - Janis Silverman  - Fairview Press - Art Therapy/Parents, Teachers, Counselors, and Therapists 
A Bully Grows Up, Erik Meets The Wizard  - A Powerful Therapeutic Tool in the form of a Children's Fantasy Story for Dealing with Bullies - Caryn Sabes Hacker - www.carynsolutions.com - Parents, Teachers, Counselors, and Therapists 
Bullies, Targets, and Witnesses: Helping Children Break the Pain Chain - Bullies & Victims: Helping Your Children Through the Schoolyard Battlefield - 30 Activities for Getting Better at Getting Along - SuEllen Fried - M. Evans and Company, Inc., http://www.bullysafeusa.com/suellen_fried/ - For Parents, Teachers, Counselors, and Therapists - Possibly the best book ever written for teaching empathy. 
Parry Aftab from Wired Safety.  She is an attorney that specializes in the practice of Internet Law, and if your child is being cyber-bullied this is the organization to call.  It is an excellent site for students, parents, teachers, or anyone that is being harassed over the internet.  You can reach Parry at parry@wiredsafety.org   and visit the site at www.wiredsafety.org

 
 
Judy Kuczynski’s Recommendations
Coloroso, B. (2003). The bully, the bullied, and the bystander. New York: HarperCollins. 
Ross, D. (2001). National bullying awareness campaign.National Education Association. Retrieved from the World Wide Web: http://www.nea.org/series/safescho/bullying
Safe Schools (2003). Web Site for National Alliance for Safe Schools. Retrieved from the World Wide Web September 10, 2003 at http://www.safeschools.org
Simmons, R. (2002). Odd girl out: the hidden culture of aggression in girls. New York: Harcourt, Inc. 

Sprague, J. & Walker, H. (2002, September). Guide 1: Creating schoolwide prevention and intervention strategies. Portland, OR: Northwest Regional Educational Laboratory.
 

 
Cathy Swartwood Mitchell’s Recommendations
Get individual therapy if you can’t cope 
Attend Grief Share meetings - reach out and get some support and talk, talk, talk. 
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Adrianna Sgarlata’s Recommendations
iSAFE Inc. - Founded in 1998 and active in all 50 states, iSAFE Inc. is the leader in Internet safety education. iSAFE is a nonprofit organization whose mission is to educate and empower students, parents, seniors, and community members to safely and responsibly take control of their Internet experiences. iSAFE provides knowledge that will enable them to recognize and avoid dangerous, destructive, or unlawful online behavior and to respond appropriately. This is accomplished through dynamic K through 12 curriculum and community-outreach programs to students, parents, law enforcement, and community leaders. iSAFE is the only Internet safety foundation to combine these elements. (www.iSafe.org)
Dancing in the Wings by Debbie Allen.  It is about an African American little girl with long legs and big feet who wants to be a dancer.
 
Rochelle Sides Recommendations
A study done by Illinois Wesleyan University - Shows that relational aggression in America affects 1 in every 20 boys and 1 in every 4 girls, http://www.iwu.edu/iwunews/newsrlse/jgh94.html
Parents of Suicide - www.parentsofsuicide.com
 
Robin Todd’s Recommendations
Bully Police USAwww.bullypolice.org  (of course)
National Youth Crisis Hotline 1-800-442-HOPE (4673) - Available 24/7 - Provides counseling and referrals to local resources for pregnancy, suicide, molestation.

National Hopeline Network 1-800-784-2433 - Available 24/7 - Handles calls for anyone having thoughts about suicide.  Callers will be connected to a certified crisis center nearest the callers location.

www.schwablearning.org - An excellent site that offers tons of information on a variety of topics related to children.  A search can be done through the site to find bullying, harassment, and school related topics/articles.

Bullies & Victims: Helping Your Children through the Schoolyard Battlefieldby Suellen Fried - This book offers intervention & advice for parents, children, school personnel, educators and therapists.

www.TeenHelp.org  - Support and advice site for anyone with a problem or questions.

Stop It Now!  1-800-773-8368 - Help or answer questions for victims, family members, friends, anyone noticing problems around them about child sexual abuse.

Rape  & Incest Abuse  1-800-656-HOPE or www.rainn.org
 
 

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